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I still feel it even now while typing all these Somehow writing in English calms me down since it is not my vernacular and I have to think harder to write, so I chose not to utilize Indonesian in this post. To all survivors of sexual abuse: You can continue reading if you want to or leave if you feel like it. In the following paragraphs I will share about what happened to me. Please read and listen, act with us and raise your kids to be better humans, to respect everyone.
I think it happened in the fifth or sixth grade in my elementary school in Yogyakarta. I frowned and did not understand why me wearing a singlet is important to be mentioned in class.
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Memek is a slang used by some Indonesians refer to vagina. Not what we expect to hear in any store in Saudi Arabia. But we understand that instead of selling his merchandise, he chose to harass us. So we left although not immediately because again we pretend he did not
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Later, after praying in the beautiful Nabawi Mosque, with several middle age women in my pilgrimage group, I went to a store in the hotel arcade right across the mosque. I was looking at the merchandise when suddenly one of the store clerks walked to a point Memex perempuan indonesia sexual harassment me, and then shoved his groin to my behind.
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Wearing t-shirt and short pants not too short, only couple cm above my kneesI was reading a book when he tried to start a conversation.
He tried another language. He continued speaking in German. He pointed at a birthmark on my left knee.
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